She's so excited. Everyone knows something has happened to her. Never has she been this 'all smiles'. Singing and obviously very happy. Nothing anyone does really matters to her now. You can't hurt her, neither can you make her more happy than she really is right now. Her friend could guess something, 'There's somebody, right?' she asked her. The smiles she gave in reply and the look on her face says it all. It is not something but somebody that happened to her. He is the best guy in the world. Nothing from his past would mean a thing now. No comments about him will change anything. She has really fallen in love.
How many times have people fallen in love and they do it over and over with different persons at different times. How would you call this 'butterfly in the belly' kind of feeling that shuts down practically your reasoning faculty. Objective thinking is postponed until a return to the world of reality. Or let's say it continues until they 'rise in love' to discover it was not real after all.
It seems like time, as it passes saps away all the buzzling and the tingling and chops off the butterfly's feather that was once burning within. Once the best guy in the world now turns the most dirty pig she's ever seen. Her angel of those days is now the worst bitch or witch ever. Where has gone all the 'love thing'? One wonders.
Guys and girls should know by now that this thing called love deserves a different name. May be we'll call it lust, infatuation or whatever. Even if you choose to call it love still, it must be a kind under construction. It is not the real one, not original, not enduring. It is ephemeral and too temporal.
Understanding that the emotions of love is not love in itself. Emotional love is not one on which you can build any lasting relationship. Emotions of whatever sort do not last. It fluctuates back and forth. It is grossly unreliable. The next time you check and find that all there is to that relationship you are about starting is the 'butterfly in the belly', then wait a while or just let it go all together.
What you need is a volitional love. Yes, that is the 'rising in love' rather than falling in love. Loving the person with your will not your feel. This willing love is called commitment. It is a reasonable love. It does not fail. It considers other more than just the self and what it can get right now. Volitional love goes ahead to love with an awareness that this person may is not perfect and may hurt me, yet I will love him all the same.
That is the love that can outlast feelings and emotions. When the emotion is gone, the volitional love keeps going. It is a love by choice not by chance. It is deliberate love not accidental.
There it is, love without limit. Love with long life. Everyone wants it but few gets it. It is God's kind of love.
Other kinds of love says I love you because...but Agape, God's kind says, I love you.
Cheers!
Felix
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Hmmn. Gr8!
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